Thursday, December 27, 2007
What hurts the most
...is by sitting down and crying all alone.
...is being so close and having so much to say but nothing comes out.
...is in love but afraid to love.
...is knowing the truth.
...is losing faith.
...is having doubts.
...is thinking you have it all,but actually you don't.
...is expecting the best but denying the facts.
...is to keep on trying knowing that it won't work out.
...is living in your own fantasy.
...is having no one to talk to.
...is letting it go.
Monday, December 24, 2007
I'm not dead.Still Alive.
Alhamdulillah..
Been really busy and making myself busy too... ha ha ha.
It's been good for me. Met couple of old friends. Reminiscing old memories. Definitely will upload the pictures soon. Here are a few from early December'07 until recently..
Eyes On Malaysia.
moi + chris wee @ Hankook Tyre Launch, Sunway Hotel Resort.
moi + bear bear @ Abang Izat's Wedding, Selangor.
moi, didi + shida @ Plaza Mont Kiara, KL.
Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is beauty, admire it.
Life is bliss, taste it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is too precious, do not destroy it.
Life is life, fight for it.
Monday, December 17, 2007
When I'm Gone
save all the memories with you..
don't you always cry.
maybe,it's for awhile...
once you've met somebody new..
don't you ever forget me.
nobody knows--
when will we leave forever..
nobody can predict--
at this right moment, God chose me.
the laughter and tears..
memories that are left for you and me here..
how beautiful if we can live forever..
and not ending it up like this.
and when I'm gone..
save all the memories with you..
don't you always cry.
Friday, December 7, 2007
Last Night
[Diddy:]
Last night,
I couldn't even get an answer.
Tried to call,
But my pride wouldn't let me dial.
And I'm sitting here,
With this blank expression.
And the way I feel,
I wanna curl up like a child.
I know you can hear me
I know you can feel me
I can't live without you
God please make me better
I wish I wasn't the way I am
[Keyshia:]
If I told you once, I told you twice,
You can see it in my eyes.
I'm all cried out,
With nothing to say.
You're everything I wanted to be.
If you could only see,
Your heart belongs to me.
I love you so much, I'm yearning for your touch.
Come and set me free,
Forever yours I'll be,
Baby won't you come and take this pain away.
[Diddy:]
Last night,
I couldn't even get an answer.
Tried to call,
But my pride wouldn't let me dial.
And I'm sitting here,
With this blank expression.
And the way I feel,
I wanna curl up like a child.
[Keyshia:]
I need you,
And you need me.
This is so plain to see,
And I will never let you go and,
I will always love you so.
I will...
If you could only see,
Your heart belongs to me.
I love you so much, I'm yearning for your touch.
Come and set me free,
Forever yours I'll be,
Baby won't you come and take this pain away.
[Diddy:]
Last night,
I couldn't even get an answer.
Tried to call,
But my pride wouldn't let me dial.
And I'm sitting here,
With this blank expression.
And the way I feel,
I wanna curl up like a child.
[Diddy:]
Tell me what words to say,
To make you come back,
And break me like that.
And if it matters I'll rather stay home,
With you I'm never alone.
Don't want to wait till you're gone,
Whatever you do, just don't leave me.
[Diddy:]
Last night,
I couldn't even get an answer.
Tried to call,
But my pride wouldn't let me dial.
And I'm sitting here,
With this blank expression.
And the way I feel,
I wanna curl up like a child.
[Keyshia:]
I need you,
And you need me.
This is so plain to see,
And I will never let you go and,
I will always love you so.
I will...
If you could only see,
Your heart belongs to me.
I love you so much, I'm yearning for your touch.
Come and set me free,
Forever yours I'll be,
Baby won't you come and take my pain away.
[Diddy:]
Last night,
I couldn't even get an answer.
Tried to call,
But my pride wouldn't let me dial.
And I'm sitting here,
With this blank expression.
And the way I feel,
I wanna curl up like a child.
[Keyshia:]
I'm so alone I'm so lonely,
Why don't you pick the phone,
And dial up my number,
And call me up baby,
I'm waiting on you.
Why don't you pick the phone,
And dial up my number,
Just call me up baby,
I'm waiting on you.
[Phone dialing and ringing]
[Diddy:]
Hello
Hey what's-up
I've been tryin' to reach you all night
That shit ain't funny not picking up the motherfucking phone
Better stop fucking playing with a nigga's feelings like that
You know how much I love you right?
But for them couple of seconds though,
When I couldn't get in touch with you.
I'm ready to come over your house and shoot that motherfucker up
You better fucking not be there when I get over that house
[laughing]
That's really how it goes down right?
Advices.
advices given to me long time ago.just want to share with all the readers. =) enjoy,maybe it'll help you out.
As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let you down probably will. You will have your heart broken probably more than once and it's harder every time. You'll break hearts too, so remember how it felt when yours was broken. You'll fight with your best friend. You'll blame a new love for things an old one did. You'll cry because time is passing too fast, and you'll eventually lose someone you love. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Don't be afraid that your life will end, be afraid that it will never begin.-- fabian
Sorry...was browsing n just saw your page..dont mean to comment on things but good page n i see you are strong, lord knows what he did but just a thought would say...if he wasnt for you, then he wasnt worth it..maybe he was, maybe he was not..either way, heartbreaks never last...and form your movie selection, im sure you know that already..take a good quote from the movie "HEAT"...Robert De Niro says it to Al Pacino at the earth stopping conversation they have...then again...it was just a thought...anyway, big ups to you and dont bother recovering, start anew as life's too short with many twists...then again, just a thought...
Much respect n big luv...then again...just a thought..
Well...you sound like you doin ok...and i think you are doing more...no doubt its hard and no one can know what you goin thru...everyone who says they can are wrong as everything that happens in this world has seperate affects and alll humans are different like that, but your bro is correct...head held high always proves that you are doing good but on the inside is what i am letting you know about...its ok to be sad hun, also its normal that this happens n part n parcel of life...remember this, what doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Not intending you to be a heartbreaker but also tryin to say that no matter what, deep down inside only you know what you feel and the times you still think of him, and that only means you are human and have not lost your feelings...feelings not for him but just to be in touch with yourself. Just knowing that you are human n you still have feelings is good sometimes, trust me. Im sorry that i dont know you and am saying so much but in life sometimes we should say things like this despite being strangers as no one know how much we do uplift or help the person and thats my sole intention. All im saying is just hang in there..not when your friends around but when you alone in your room and feel all alone n shitty...thats when you need to hang in there coz a beautiful girl like you has lots of ppl who love her, and thats got to be worth something..never the same..but something. Thats when you need to hang in and know that life is too short to remember the past, sieze the day, party thru the night and always know there is a brighter sun shining the next morning..then again, just a thought...
Much respect n big luv...then again...just a thought..
Find someone who can make you smile and never give up on them.
No one but myself...
Many happy and sad events happened in my life within this year.
Played like a movie without sound.
Today is the 7th of December. Another 25 days til 2008.
People come and go into my life.
They leave a mark. Each and every of them.
Friends, past and current lovers.
I've never been so happy right now.
I was confused.
I was depressed [as u can read my previous blogs.].
Until now, I've realized...
The only thing that made me happy is myself.
I used to be indecisive [well making decisions in life.].
Now, I know what I want.
I've punished myself for the past 5 months.
I've beaten up myself badly.
Now, I won't do it anymore [insyaAllah].
To love someone, is to love yourself first.
To respect someone, is to respect yourself first.
Now, I have my confidence.
I have strength.
I have faith.
I do believe.
I don't give up.
Because in life, if you don't have that, you'll lose it all.
Life is short, embrace it.
Live life to the fullest.
I've never felt so peace.
So calm.
InsyaAllah, I'm gonna go through all the anticipations that Allah send to me.
InsyaAllah...
It's just me. No one but myself...
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Falter.
I know I let you down
don't you know I tried so hard
to love you in my way
it's easy let it go...
I'm empty since you left me
trying to find a way to carry on
I search myself and everyone
to see where we went wrong
'cause there's no one left to finger
there's no one here to blame
there's no one left to talk to honey
and there ain't no one to buy our innocence
'cause we are born innocent
believe me we are still innocent
it's easy, we all falter
does it matter?
I thought we could make it
but I know I can't change the way you feel
I leave you with your misery
a friend who won't betray
I pull you from your tower
I take away your pain
and show you all the beauty you possess
if you'd only let yourself believe that
we are born innocent
My heart is broken
i've been thinking and i prayed. my heart's broken. though i have found my few missing puzzles, i'm about to lose another one. i've been making myself busy. i can't stop the way universe go.
Ya Allah, kuatkan semangat aku.
"I miss you and I love you..never ever forget that.."
Zara D.
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
This year's love...
"Be strong in life, no matter what happens to you. When you have problems, you just have to cope with them. Life is tough and you have to learn that no one has it in for you, things just happen. Even if you're not religious a little prayer and knowing that someone is looking after you will help you get through. When times are good, appreciate every minute.
Don't be hard on yourself, love yourself. Nobody can love you like you love you, but you have to work at it - over years. That's a good thing to know when you're young. We women are so used to punishing ourselves. If someone has upset us, we tend to carry it around. Try not to carry it with you: think it out, sort it out and get rid of it. Counseling is a helpful thing these days.
Always be true to yourself. The best way to do that is to go with your gut feeling. You can listen to everybody and they can say,"Do this, do that", but that's just their opinion. Do what you think is right. Look inside yourself and go with it.It does sometimes help to listen to others, but above all listen to your gut feeling.
Laugh a lot. If you don't laugh, you have no life. Life has to be laughter and love and the rest will fall into place.
Educate yourself as well as you can. Be interested in a lot of different things, be stimulated by what is around you. Grab hold of life and don't get stuck in a rut. It's an exciting world out there and you should set your sights high. Strive for excellence in whatever you do and get totally involved. Keep your mind fresh and open and let your imagination soar.
Make sure you have enough personal space and time, time for your family and friends, and work time.
Trust your inner feelings and build faith in your own judgment. Common sense is pretty rare these days, so develop some. Never take no for an answer when it comes to your abilities, your business or your career horizons because women are innately good managers. We are multi-faceted.
Prepare for the fact that there will be moments when you fall. It's inevitable, so don't despair. Often there will be people around who will put a hand out and help. Life has pitfalls but they are part of the process of learning and adjustment. "
i have faith. though i actually now see what's wrong [Alhamdulillah Allah beri petunjuk.]. Like i said, i haven't stop praying and never will.it's kinda hard for me right now.i have less than a month.i know it's worth fighting for and at the same time i'm afraid.it still feels right and for the past few years,my instinct never gone wrong.i pray this time it won't.funny how love works. one willing to fight and the other won't.one has faith,the other doesn't. my heart's pumping real fast now. something is wrong. but i dunno what it is. it's like i'm gonna bump into someone. the adrenaline rush. *praying*
i'm sorry i have to stop typing now.suddenly i just can't. dear readers,please pray for the best.
Thank you.
Zara D.
Tuesday, December 4, 2007
Once
A modern day musical set on the streets of Dublin. Featuring Glen Hansard from the Irish band "The Frames". The film tells the story of a street musician and a Czech immigrant during an eventful week as they write, rehearse and record songs that reveal their unique love story.
Go ahead and find this dvd.
---
"Love is the flower you've got to let grow." ~ John Lennon
The Hill
and you have closed your eyes,
I wish I didn't have to make all those mistakes and be wise.
Please try to be patient and know that I'm still learning.
I'm sorry that you have to see the strength inside me burning.
Where are you my angel now?
Don't you see me crying?
I know that you can do it all
but you can't say I'm not trying.
I'm on my knees in front of him
but he doesn't seem to see me
but all his troubles on this night
is looking right through me
and I'm letting myself down
by satisfying you
and I wish that you could see
I have my troubles, too.
Looking at you sleeping,
another man I love.
I'm sitting here weeping
while the hours pass so slow.
I know that in the morning
I have to let you go
and you'll be just a man
once I used to know.
Before these past days
someone I don't recognize
This isn't all my fault.
When will you realize?
Looking at you leaving,
I'm looking for a sign.
Falling Slowly
but I want you
all the more for that
words fall through me
and always fool me
and I can't react
games that never amount
to more than they're meant
will play themselves out
take this sinking boat
and point it home
we've still got time
raise your hopeful voice
you had the choice
you've made it now
falling slowly
eyes that know me
and I can't go back
wounds that take me
and erase me
and I'm painted black
well you have suffered enough
and warred with yourself
it's time that you've won
take this sinking boat
and point it home
we've still got time
raise your hopeful voice
you had the choice
you've made it now
take this sinking boat
and point it home
we've still got time
raise your hopeful voice
you had the choice
you've made it now
falling slowly
sing your melody
I'll sing it loud
loud
Glen Hansard & Markéta Irglová
- All The Way Down
- Alone Apart
- Broken Hearted Hoover Fixer Sucker Guy
- Drown Out
- Fallen From The Sky
- Falling Slowly
- Gold
- If You Want Me
- Leave
- Lies
- Once
- Say It To Me Now
- Sleeping
- The Hill
- The Moon
- This Low
- Trying To Pull Myself Away
- When Your Mind's Made Up
Love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant
I got this article from an old friend of mine, Fareisha.
She's somewhere over the rainbow but she's concern about me.
She's one of my good friend.
Friends like her is so hard to find.
For the rest of my friends, who's been there for me lately, I thank you too...
I really appreciate it all.
I ♥ you!
"Fate chooses your relations, you choose your friends"
---Jacques Delille__________________________________________________________
People come into your life for a reason, a
season or a lifetime. When you know which one
it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it
is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a
difficulty, to provide you with guidance and
support, to aid you physically, emotionally or
spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and
they are. They are there for the reason you need
them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on
your part or at an inconvenient time, this
person will say or do something to bring the
relationship to an end. Sometimes they die
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a
stand. What we must realize is that our need has
been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and
now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
because your turn has come to share, grow or
learn. They bring you an experience of peace or
make you laugh. They may teach you something
you have never done. They usually give you an
unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it, it is real.
But only for a season!
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime
lessons, things you must build upon in order to
have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to
accept the lesson, love the person and put what
you have learned to use in all other relationships
and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind
but friendship is clairvoyant.
Monday, December 3, 2007
Because of you..
Since I met you I'm not the same.
You bring life to everything I do.
Just the way you say hello.
With one touch I can't let go.
Never thought I'd fall in love with you.
Sometimes I get lonely and all I gotta do is think of you.
You captured something inside of me.
You make all of my dreams come true.
It's not enough that you love me for me.
You reached inside and touched me internally.
I love you best explains how I feel for you.
The magic in your eyes, true love I can't deny.
When you hold me I just lose control.
I want you to know that I'm never letting go.
You mean so much to me, I want the world to see it's because of you.
Because of you, my life has changed.
Thank you for the love and the joy you bring.
Because of you I feel no shame.
I'll tell the world it's because of you..
Sunday, December 2, 2007
Love
i sat here.. alone.
Having a pot of tea..
Starring at the crowd..
Starring at the entrance
-- with faith and believe;
I would see him.
My hearts crying out loud
How long can it take?
The memories are haunting me..
My heart yearns for him..
It's been days for me..
It's killing me.
I'm dying inside,
--but I shall not give up.
That's my definition of LOVE.
- never giving it up
- sacrifices
- compromised
- understanding
- believe
- faith
- trust
- respect
- forgiving
- appreciation
- sharing
- integrity
- honesty
- compassion
- happiness
for to be a lover will require
that you continually have
the subtlety of the very wise,
the flexibility of the child,
the sensitivity of the artist,
the understanding of the philosopher,
the acceptance of the saint,
the tolerance of the scholar and
the fortitude of the certain."
~Leo Buscaglia~
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
No regrets
Yesterday was a sad day.
I've never expect it too soon.
He was like a grandfather to me.
I never got a chance to say goodbye.
I saw his body.
I gave him last kiss.
I didn't go to his funeral.
I cried.
Only tears of sadness.
Not regrets.
I feel like I'm losing more.
But this is life.
They say, "Life's a bitch."
I used to agree.
I take as it is..
All I have now are memories..
"It is a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it." - Somerset Maugham
Today
"Dark, depressing dreams could plague your sleep tonight, Zara, probably alternating with silly ones that make you laugh out loud. You could wake in the morning totally confused by these images, and your tendency might be to dismiss them. Don't do this, however. Your dreams are trying to tell you something about yourself. Have you had your emotional ups and downs lately? Have you alternately laughed and cried over something? Think about it!"
Hmm.. i did dream about many things but i totally forgot about it.Maybe it's true.I'm still on the journey for searching myself.Well, not just me.Everybody else too.My hopes are my days are gonna shine brighter with full of beautiful memories.
I had lunch with Dev and Angah just now. It was good. Better than yesterday. Wonderful conversations about many things. About our country (politics mainly), movies (stardust and hitman -- oooh i can't wait to watch!) and many more.
I feel a whole lot better.
I can smile.
I can laugh.
I can think. (weeheee!)
Articles coming up soon.I'm taking Dev's advise.I'm gonna post it by chapters or topics. Well, it's gonna be easier.Still tired somehow. I miss that particular person. Hope to see him soon.
Thanks again for stopping by and read.
kisses,
Zara D.
Monday, November 26, 2007
Life
Beautiful weather,
People chattering,
Simple ambiance.
I sipped.
Smile.
Laughter.
Oh, happiness!
"Fine beauty in all that you do"- Manmohan Singh
Inside of me
I sat here today -- alone
Watching people passing by
Talking almost about everything; different languages.
It's five in the evening
Watching them
How great it is to be with someone...
Deep inside I cried
Screaming for happiness
Screaming for love.
Inhale.
Exhale.
Ashtray full of cigarette butts.
Why can't these thoughts go away?
Why can't these feelings go away?
Disturbing.
"All you got to do is let it go"-anonymous
Mortality
terbujur kaku..
tangisan teresak-esak didengari;
surah di baca tanpa berhenti..
saudara banjiri halaman rumah.
menziarahi.
"Takziah.."
mataku kabur.
bergelinang air mataku di tubir mata.
hanya Allah yang tahu...
Usah tangisi yang sudah pergi...
"The clouds that gather round the setting sun, Do take a sober coloring from an eye, That hath kept watch o’er man’s mortality."-William Wordsworth
Kepemergianmu...
Dibisik kalimah syahadah,
Dia menghembus nafas terakhir..
Innalillah...
Tangisan memecah kesunyian.
Yasin di baca.
"Allah lebih menyayanginya."
Yang pergi,takkan kembali..
Moga Allah S.W.T. cucuri rohnya dan menempatnya di sisi Rasul dan sahabatnya.
Al-Fatihah..
Allah said in the Holy Qur’an:
HUWAL-LADHI KHALAQAKUM FAMINKUM
KAFIRUN WAMINKUM MU’MINUN.
WALLAU BIMA TA`MALUNA BASIR.
KHALAQAS-SAMAWATI WAL ARDA BILHAQQI
WASAW-WARAKUM FA AHSANA SUWARAKUM.
WA ILAYHIL MASIR.
“It was He that created you: yet some of you are unbelievers,
while others have faith, He is Cognizant of all your actions.
He created the heavens and the earth to manifest
the truth and fashioned you into a comely shape.
To Him you shall return.”
______________________________________
FA SUBHANAL-LADHI BIYADIHI
MALAKUTU KULLI SHAY'IW WA ILAYHI TURJA`UN.
”SO GLORIFIED IS HE (ABOVE ALL TAINT),
IN WHOSE HAND IS THE GOVERNANCE OF
EVERYTHING AND TO HIM YOU WILL ALL BE
BROUGHT BACK (IN THE END).” - Surah Yasin,Ayat 83.
Thursday, November 22, 2007
One Never Forgets
Tears of joy streaming down..
Wound healed.
Remembering the good ol' days,
I smiled.
I read it again.
I thank Lord.
"Memory is more indelible than ink" - Anita Loos
The Way Universe Go
hard of breathing.
People surrounding --
Praying..
Oh, take his pain away!
Lord, take our pain away...
One life is brought to earth,
the other is about to be taken.
Angry.
Sad.
"Unfair..", I said.
That's how it works...
"Life and Death are alike in that they both have an uncertain eternity right next to them" -- Isaac Perez
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Untitled
thinking of how one life could be.
loves sinking;
loves ending.
dreadfully one life could end
without their beloved.
missing badly.
needing it.
wanting it.
absurd.
how can it be?
kept on questioning how life is.
like a pawn.paced either to black or white path.
why?
one said,never ask how god makes it work.
think think think.
accept the way it is.
"life's greatest happiness is to be convinced we are loved." - Victor Hugo, Les Miserables,1862.
Friday, November 9, 2007
Beautiful Lie...
And think about your life
Do you want to be different?
Try to let go of the truth
The battles of your youth
’Cause this is just a game
It's a beautiful lie
It's a perfect denial
Such a beautiful lie to believe in
So beautiful, beautiful lie makes me
It's time to forget about the past
To wash away what happened last
Hide behind an empty face
Don't ask too much, just say
'Cause this is just a game
Everyone's looking at me
I'm running around in circles
A quiet desperation's building higher
I've got to remember this is just a game
"Be not afraid of life.Believe that life IS worth living and your belief will help create the fact." -James Truslow Adams
Tuesday, November 6, 2007
Thursday, November 1, 2007
Lies, Lies, Lies
Abraxas he said,"I'm Abraxas, the demon of lies and deceit. So, what do you want to know about lies my dear?"
-- I'm not a liar. I tried again to get up this time, I'm flayed, splayed. I feel myself screaming.
"I'll tell you about lies. There are white lies and black lies... and many shades of grey lies.. but some lies are justified; Lies are told out of kindness. Lies that preserve dignity... Lies that spare pain. Everybody's a liar dear.. everybody is.."
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
1984
Friday, September 21, 2007
Picture of my life...
Every life is like a movie. We are the cast and in this movie of ours we are the main actor or actresses and we are also our own director and scriptwriter. God is our producer and this is the picture of my life.
I may not be a famous and glamorous star but I “starred” and “directed” my own “movie” like any other movies you’ve seen. Actually, we all do. Is just the matter whether you want to put it “on air” to let other people read or watch it. I do. I want to show part of my life to all of you and who knows it might help through this story of mine.
For some certain time, I always wonder how it feels to be someone else. Today I’m all alone again at home. It just feels so empty to me. Staring at the ceiling. Listening to the neighbors. Looking at the busy street that never sleeps. Please excuse my writing here. I’m not a blogger or a writer type of a person. Each and everyday, I wake in the morning, I’m doing the same old same old routine. Aren’t any of you tired of the same things? I surely am. But this is life. Once you’ve started to take the responsibility, everything is a routine. Nothing is the same like when you were in school. Well, yes when I was in school I can’t wait to get out and start working but when I am where I am right now, I kept on wishing that school never ends. Sounds a little childish aren’t I? I’m living a quieter life now. I don’t go out to parties like I used to. I’m not complaining. I’m just saying this because I was the one who cut all the party friends. I can’t live those kind of life. Parties, boozes and drugs. I was once a junkie and I’m not proud of it. I do miss those “old” life but when I look where I am right now, I’m grateful I’ve seen the light. The only thing I’m wishing is for my birthday is more excitement in my life. Yeah, I’m gonna be 23 this coming 3rd October. Day by day we’re getting older. Seconds actually. I just need to spice my life up. I have a wonderful job that pays quite okay for my qualifications and experiences. What I’m doing is not what I took course in college. Thanks to my lovely friend, Anyz, who introduced me to my wonderful bosses, Dev and Mohan.
Sometimes I just wish that my friends and I would hang out more like we used to. Now we’re all grown ups who has lots of responsibilities. Not even a second to say hi to each other. It has always been “I’m busy, I’ll buzz you soon okay?” and it never happen. Don’t that always happen to you? I envy my boyfriend’s life sometimes. He’s still in college so can’t beat that. College life rocks. Friends are always there to hang out. It’s like “dude, free later? Let’s chill.”. correct me if I’m wrong. He always has activities to do. Its either doing group assignments or hanging out with friends. His life is always packed with activities. Mine? Hurmm.. last I checked, I came back home, took a long shower (that’s to kill the time), make myself dinner, watch dvds, waited for his calls, go to sleep. It has always been like that. That’s during the weekdays. Weekends? I’ll go out if he takes me out. If he doesn’t, it’s either I’m back at my parents place or I’ll be at home doing my chores. I don’t go out to the movies alone like I used to. I don’t go out to my favorite place to have a pot of chamomile tea, watch the crowds while reading a book anymore. Is that what happen when you get older? It’s so dull. Very grey. I’m coming 23 and I feel like I’m 32. Maybe, I say maybe because of this, I tend to pester my boyfriend and demand to see him more and that’s why he said I’m needy and dependent on him subconsciously. Which I didn’t even realize that at all. But is it wrong for someone who hardly see her boyfriend who’s always been busy with his life ask? Every time when I wanted to seat down and talk to him, I changed my mind. This is because I do not want to waste any seconds that we have. So all I can ask is through my thoughts only. The only time that we have is the time that we always rush because we always have activities. All I’m asking for is a day, just me and him, sitting down and talk. Yes, we do talk all the time, if I’m at the office and he’s online from home or class or library we chat, or even at night before going to bed, we have this cute routine, ‘smoking together’ and talk on the phone but not a serious talk. Maybe, like I said again, maybe, he’s not ready or didn’t notice at all and I hope one day, I’ll have that talk with him.
I had this one conversation over the phone with my wonderful best girlfriend, dini, she was complaining how bad her relationship is. I agreed on her too. Men at times can be so selfish and never bothers what women trying to tell them. All they can say is that we women keep on nagging, pestering and demanding. What they didn’t realize is that we’re trying to figure out how to make relationship works. Some men doesn’t even bother to ask what we women do or have we eaten or even better, how was our day. Women are supposed to be pampered. We don’t expect it most of the time, we only ask at least once a week on better still, which will make mens’ life easier, ask once in blue moon. Don’t think that men has work to do, important meetings to attend, that we women don’t as much as men does. For married women who has a career, they work too. They come back home, for whom has children, nurture them, make sure the houses are tidy and all, greet the husband and give them pleasure (and I’m not talking just about sex). For single career women who’s dating or engaged, they have hard time at work too (I don’t so far). Just a simple question, “how was your day?” will change every single feelings and thoughts and straight away can see the smile on their face. Yet, men doesn’t has a clue about it. Yes, we women too would admit that we don’t understand men at times, and the simple and easy way is to sit down and talk about it calmly. No pointing fingers, “I work harder” or “ you have no idea..”. none of that. The problem with people, they always get defensive but once when they are on their own and thought about it, that’s when they would realize what went wrong. Funny isn’t it? Grown ups. I’m one of them and I do admit those things happens. Not just in relationship. Family and friends too.
Family, the topic that one would not discuss. For the is the same like relationship. Personal. Family is our root. I’m not afraid or embarrass to admit that my family aren’t working out so well. We argued on small and silly things which I started and now the whole family is not on talking terms. The only people I’m talking to are my parents and my sister. I’m not on talking terms with my brother and his family (he’s married with two lovely kids which I missed a lot) and my brother in law couldn’t be bothered about me. He’s a little sensitive now. My sister told me that my brother in law won’t be coming back to my parents place for Raya. I’m pretty sure my parents especially my dad would be really upset about it. I pity my sister because she’s stuck in the middle between our father and her husband. I feel bad and how I wish I could make things better but there’s nothing I could do. The more I try to fix things up, the more it got worse. That’s what happened between me and my two best friends of 10 and 14 years. I’ll get to that story soon. I’m clueless. My sister is pregnant and I’m sure my dad misses her. Oh how I wish I could do something. Any ideas? Feel free to drop a comment and suggestions.
So okay, now I can tell you what’s the real story happened between my two best friends and
Once after I’ve moved, that’s when I met my boyfriend. Until now I couldn’t believe I’m with him. He was my primary school mate. Every time I think about it, it made me smile. I toned down my party life. Slowly I left the group. Shauna came back from overseas. She met those “old friends” of mine. We hung out. She started to change to one of them. We tried to make things work between us. Like those saying, “two is a party, three is a crowd”. Later on, my dad fell sick. He had 85% - 15%. The chances were so low. I spend most of the time with my dad. Doctor was telling us to pray. I cried to my best friends. They promised they would come on the operation day itself. They didn’t show up at all. They did come day before but wasn’t the same. Thank god my dad went through it. He’s now recovering. When he knew what kind of friend they were, he was so upset as he himself always consider them as his daughters. Dini was always there for me though she’s busy. He was happy to know at least I have a very good friend who’ll be there for my ups and downs. Lesson learned, lesson taken.
Now, my life isn’t the same. I have few good friends. Like what my dad always say, “Friends come and go as we grow older. It’s the quality not the quantity.” And I have to agree with him. For every reader out there, a simple hello would cheer your mate. Cherish them and never take advantage on them. You might never know who’ll help you around and be with you through the sunshiny and rainy days. These type of friends keep them closer. Say thank you to them whenever and don’t just wait for any special occasion or receiving any thing from them. They’ve given you a beautiful gift, friendship. Appreciate them. At this particular moment, I’d like to take this chance to say thank you to all my friends out there for coming into my life and colored my beautiful days. You will not be forgotten. You know who you are.
So peeps. This is the story of my life. Part of it. All about my relationships with my family, friends and romance. I’m grateful to go through all this. For coming birthday, I’m wishing it’d be better. InsyaAllah. Thank you for your time to read. Take care fellow readers. Soon, I’ll be writing more. Something interesting than this. Might never know my life will change and I’ll have interesting stories to share. Please excuse me for any grammatical errors. Thank you again.
Hugs & kisses,
Zara D.
Thursday, September 20, 2007
i blog this last night
Zara D.
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
birthday wish list
1. dinner at rahsia
2. cash RM 450. [i dun have to pay my rent]
3. tong gas [ada stove tapi tong gas takde]
4. mattress. [tilamku amat nipis]
5. new frame for my glasses.
6. shoe cabinet
7. mini bar
8. Victoria secret body splash
9. shoes shoes shoes [and a pair of sneakers too]
10. dvd rack
11. dinner at starhill
12. dinner at groove junction
13. HIM limited edition dvd set
14. ikea wardrobe
15. digital camera
16. web cam
17. laptop cooler
18. external hard disk
19. brand new s500i [sony ericsson] or nokia 7373
20. perfume from Chanel [allure] / Ralph Laurence [romance]
21. pay raise
well so far that's my wish..more to come. *hint hint hint*
kisses,
Zara D.
how my blog should be ..
Your Blog Should Be Purple |
You're an expressive, offbeat blogger who tends to write about anything and everything. You tend to set blogging trends, and you're the most likely to write your own meme or survey. You are a bit distant though. Your blog is all about you - not what anyone else has to say. |
my heart is green.
Your Heart Is Green |
Love completes you, but that doesn't mean you seek it out. When love comes your way, you integrate it peacefully into the rest of you life. Your flirting style: Laid back Your lucky first date: Walking around aimlessly and talking Your dream lover: Is both enthusiastic and calm What you bring to relationships: Balance |
Monday, September 17, 2007
Loveology ( part I )
-- taken from Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia [www.wikipedia.org]
i've been searching high and low for the meaning of love. just want to understand more about it. love can be very simple and can be really complicated..it works on how you choose it to be.
many people don't understand what love is and i'm very sure many people get confused with it. most people misused it. take advantage of it. what is love?
don't all of you question this? there are many types of love.various categories.i can't name all because i haven't do any research on it. today i just want to open this topic for discussion. i'll continue more on this topic.
cheerios babies~
Zara D.
Thursday, September 13, 2007
From the heart...
Zara D.
The apple of my eye...
Zara D.
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
confession ( part I )
Zara D.
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
my heart shouts ...
Zara D.
love and other disasters ( part I )
Zara D.
Monday, September 10, 2007
all cried out
Zara D.
Friday, September 7, 2007
Girls night out to Urban Republic @ Maison
The house will provide a sanctuary of substance, soul and a fresh swagger to fill the void in deprived young souls. This is where the pure feeling of togetherness and brotherhood is once again fostered. This is where we bring together like-minded individuals to a common beat of music built for, and by the community of the streets. We take you to a whole other level that bursts at the seams with the true music of its age, obliterating barriers of culture, race, fashion and ethic.
We introduce to you a resonant ambience that reinforces the urban music scene with vibes that have long been missed. Here the scene is establishing a platform that will most effectively defy mainstream convention. Through “UR”, the latest in hip-hop collides with all that is raw and original in urban music clubbing, all in an environment conducive to your right to party.
The revolution of hip hop and soul begins.
what's written up there was taken from www.maison.com.my so when i read the reviews,yeah why not,lets give it a try after so long i've not partied. so made plans with anyz,wanted her to join and she couldn't make it cause she's still working [rajin sunggoh kawan aku nie.] and i invited arlyn aka angah,my beloved pet sis. knowing just the 2 of us are going,i feel like canceling the plan.the more the merrier plus it's supposed to be a girls night out. but since angah was so excited to go plus the last time we met was 3-4 months back.we reached there about 12++ the crowd...ouh my god!! all those chinese hip hoppers.80% full of chinese, the 20% malay,indian and others. the dj's so suck! i prefer to go loft upstairs instead of maison. that's gonna be the last time i'm gonna be there. the air conditioning is so bad and only some certain area only you can feel the air. i mean, look at loft upstairs,telawi street bistro,passion and many other clubs,even though it's packed but the air conditioning mantained. we can still feel the air-cond. the services are bad. i don't like it cause the bartenders are not so friendly type. hello...you're in the service line.SMILE.and yeah so terrible.so slow. [mentang mentang aku pernah jadi marketing exec at evoke cocktail bar,but it's true,penat and stress macam mana,smile even if you're hubby's or mom or whoever died.] thanks to angah for accompanying me there..thanks to alil [angah's bf] to send and pick us up there and send me back home too~ next time,the real girls nyte out.have to plan earlier.after alil picked us up,we stopped by at zouk to pick up wan kembang.. he was one of our party friends.i last met him at UV nation.he was all alone.standard ahh xaxau kat loft.tapi respek ah sebab dia slalu pergi xaxau sorang sorang.keras gile.then we all went for supper at setiawangsa..perghh lama tak jejak kaki to area setiawangsa.after i left my old life.i heard an old good friend of mine is finally back in K.L , has a job, has a girlfriend and less going to parties.i felt so good when i heard the news..after sending wan back we all headed back home to sleep! working people here!! =) here i enclosed four pictures of angah and i at Maison. Sorry if it's blurry.taken by handphone camera.it's 1.3 megapixels. if u complain,get me a brand new s500i or 7373.birthday coming up!! **winks**Thursday, September 6, 2007
only god knows
Zara D.
advice from shareen
Anda mungkin mempelajari sesuatu jika membacanya!! !
Bersedekahlah kepada orang lain lebih daripada yang mereka perlukan dan lakukanlah dengan penuh kerelaan.
KEDUA.
Kahwinilah lelaki / wanita yang gemar anda berbicara dengannya, kerana kemahiran berbicara antara satu dengan lain akan menjadi lebih penting pabila usia semakin tua.
KETIGA.
Usahlah mempercayai segala perkara yang anda dengari. Berbelanjalah sekadar apa yang ada atau tidurlah seberapa lama yang anda perlu
KEEMPAT.
Apabila kamu berkata, " Aku Cinta Padamu", maka tunaikanlah.
KELIMA.
Pabila mengatakan, "Maaf", tenunglah matanya.
KEENAM.
Bertunanglah sekurang-kurangnya enam bulan sebelum kamu diijabkabulkan.
KETUJUH.
Percayailah cinta pandang pertama.
Usah tertawakan impian orang lain. Manusia tanpa impian tidak memiliki apa-apa.
KESEMBILAN.
Cintailah seseorang dengan sepenuh hati dan penuh kasih sayang. Sungguhpun anda akan berasa seolah-olah diri anda tersiksa, tapi percayalah itulah satu-satunya untuk melengkapkan kehidupan ini.
KESEPULUH.
Jika berlaku perselisihan pendapat, bertengkarlah secara aman. Usahlah menyebut nama sesiapa ketika bertengkar.
Usahlah menilai seseorang berdasarkan peribadi keluarga mereka.
KEDUABELAS.
Berbicaralah dengan tenang dan berfikirlah dengan pantas.
Apabila seseorang bertanyakan satu soalan yang tidak anda gemari, lontarkanlah senyuman dan bertanyalah padanya,"Kenapa anda ingin tahu?"
KEEMPATBELAS.
Ingatlah bahawa setiap cinta dan pencapaian yang besar akan melibatkan pengorbanan dan risiko yang besar.
KELIMABELAS.
Ucaplah "Semoga anda diberkati" apabila mendengar seseorang bersin.
KEENAMBELAS.
Apabila anda kerugian, janganlah jadi kurang ajar.
KETUJUHBELAS.
1. Rasa hormat pada diri sendiri;
2. Rasa hormat kepada orang lain;
3. Rasa tanggungjawab terhadap semua tindakan anda
KELAPANBELAS.
Usahlah benarkan pertikaian yang sebesar hama merosakkan sebuah persahabatan yang besar.
Apabila menyedari bahawa anda telah melakukan kesalahan, usahlah berlengah untuk perbetulkan kesalahan itu.
KEDUAPULUH.
Tersenyumlah ketika menjawab telefon. Pemanggil akan melihatnya daripada suara yang mereka dengar.
KEDUAPULUH SATU
Ada ketikanya anda perlu bersendirian.
1. give to the poor sincerely
2. marry to a man/woman that you love to talk to cause communication is important especially
when you gets older
3. don't believe all the things you've heard, spend your money wisely and sleep as long as u want
to.
4. when you say "I Love You",make sure you mean it.
5. when you say "I'm Sorry", look straight in the eye.
6. get engage at least for 6 months before solemnization.
7. believe in love at the first sight.
8. don't laugh at other people's dreams. people who's without a dream won't have anything at all.
9. love someone with all your heart and soul even though you feel that it's unbearable, but
believe it cause that's the only thing that completes your life.
10. if there are arguments or misunderstanding, discuss it calmly and don't mention who's right
or wrong.
11. don't judge a person by their family background.
12. discuss calmly and think fast.
13. when a person asked a question that you're uncomfortable,JUST smile and ask, "why do you
want to know?".
14. remember love and achievements requires big sacrifices.
15. say "god bless you" every time someone sneezes.
16. when you're at lost, don't be rude.
17. hold on to these 3 R's:-
- respect yourself
- respect others
- responsible on the actions you take
19. when you've realized that you've made a big mistake, don't dawdle/delay the time to solve it.
20. smile when you answer the phone and the caller could imagine it when they hear you.
21. there are times you need to be alone.
most of these advices are for me too~ hahha but i just wanna share with all of you.after all, sharing is caring..
Zara D.